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How to Become a World Class Coach

Posted on May 29, 2019
Woman driving car

by Karen Kimsey-House, CEO & Co-founder, CTI

Learning steps – they begin with unconscious incompetence. We are blissfully unaware that we don’t know, that we are sadly lacking in skills because we have never considered the matter.

As a child, I had never even dreamed of driving a car. I had no idea how much I didn’t know because I have never even considered the matter. Then, as I moved into my teen years, my Dad let me sit behind the wheel of his car. Oh my! I was awash in the next learning step – Conscious Incompetence. As I faced all those knobs and dials, I was keenly aware of how much I did not know.

When it came time for me to get my driver’s license, I took drivers education and practiced a lot, much to the chagrin of my poor Dad who had to ride along with me, bless him. Over time I became Consciously Competent. I COULD drive, and it took quite a bit of a concentration on my part. Relax, my drivers ed. teacher would say. . .only it sounded more like, “REEEELAX!!!!!!!!X@#!#@#X”. I had to take my drivers ed. exam several times before I passed, but with time and practice, I was a driver.

Today I jump in the car and take off without even thinking twice. I have reached Unconscious Competence. Still, sometimes when there are unusual circumstances – heavy traffic, fog, or slick roads – I have to give driving all my attention. This brings me to alertness as I slip into Conscious Competence again.

This is the path to mastery as we succeed and fail and succeed again, dancing back and forth between different learning steps. This path isn’t linear, which is part of the fun of it all.

Nobody ever became world class at anything because they didn’t have any weaknesses. Few are the geniuses who spring from the womb as fully formed masters, and even these “prodigies” worked very hard to develop their abilities.

Still, for some reason, people seem to want to skip over this process and find an easier ride. I hear students comparing themselves to those who have been coaching for years and judging themselves harshly when they come up short. They imagine that they just don’t have what it takes to be a great coach.

Everyone is looking for the 10 steps to mastery, that fast elevator ride that enables one to pass over the incredibly awkward and vulnerable process of learning something new.

Many potentially great coaches give up far too early, or go for the “quick approach,” investing in superficial training so that they can be “done” with learning.

Mastery at anything takes time, commitment and most of all. . .practice. Coaching is no different.

The fastest way I know to coaching mastery is to embrace one’s shortcomings.

  • Seek out feedback that points towards what needs development.
  • Study and work with those who will provide direct, loving and spacious feedback.
  • Then apply yourself to developing those more fallow aspects.

It certainly won’t hurt to grow in new areas, and you’ll find your coaching will ripen and mature in the process.

Written By

Karen Kimsey-House

Karen Kimsey-House, MFA, CPCC, is the Co-founder and CEO of The Coaches Training Institute (CTI), the oldest and largest in-person coach training school in the world, and the co-author of the best-selling Co-Active Coaching: Changing Business, Transforming Lives. Karen was one of four pioneers of the coaching profession, and in honor of its 20th birthday this year, she is sharing her insights about human transformation in a ten-part HuffPost series,"Disrupt Your Life in a Good Way".